i met someone at an industry event a while back, and we had really similar backgrounds, so we clicked pretty quickly. by the end we exchanged linkedin and emails, and they kept saying how much they wanted to help however they could. i told them that i am searching for jobs, and they offered to review my resume, look at cover letters, and even suggested virtual coffee chats for mentorship.
we did the usual “nice to meet you, let’s stay in touch” follow-up on linkedin and left it there.
later on i reached out with an update on my job search. no response. i didn’t think much of it at the time and just kept moving.
a few weeks later i reached out again to ask if they had time for a quick resume review, since they had offered. nothing again. that one actually bothered me because i wouldn’t have asked otherwise.
then last week i saw a role at their company that was honestly a perfect match for my experience. i reached out one more time. still nothing.
at this point it’s just frustrating. don’t go out of your way to offer help multiple times if you have no intention of following through. it comes off like people just want to sound generous in the moment or collect connections.
what makes it worse is they’re super active on linkedin. constantly posting, clearly online, trying to be a linkedin influencer while my ignoring messages.
i get that people are busy and i’m not expecting much. even a quick “hey i don’t have bandwidth right now” would have been completely fine. just anything other than silence. also, what's the point of being connected on linkedin if you're not going to support your connections. if roles were reversed, i'd totally help someone out.
it just feels fake and honestly kind of disrespectful. kinda just wanna remove this person from my connections.