I started a new job in January. I went through over a month of training and officially started on the floor in March.
Three days in, my mom died in front of me. I tried to perform CPR. 911 response felt slow. It was traumatic and honestly something I still haven’t processed.
While I was getting ready for my mother’s wake a coworker called and asked me to do work from home. I said, no. I have been on her list to deem me inept since.
Despite that, I only took 4 days off work.
When I returned, my responsibilities were “lightened,” but not really paused. I was still expected to manage difficult situations, including clients becoming physically aggressive, families being verbally aggressive, and I didn’t feel supported by my boss at all. When I raised concerns, they were brushed off like I wasn’t actively grieving and still learning the role.
I kept pushing forward anyway. I tried to follow company expectations, make improvements, and implement changes where I could. Then they sent me to another 3-week training.
Today was supposed to be my 90-day mark. Instead, my boss told me my probation is being extended another 60 days.
I asked why. There were no clearly defined goals set for me in the first place. She cited one issue—and it wasn’t even something that had been communicated as a formal expectation. The only “direction” I was given earlier was to essentially replace most of the team, which HR wouldn’t even approve.
I feel blindsided and honestly crushed. I showed up during one of the worst moments of my life and still tried to do my job.
Now I’m questioning everything and seriously considering quitting.
Has anyone dealt with something like this? Is this normal, or am I being treated unfairly?